Most of the time when a partner is quick to yell at you or wants to control you, it is because that person is upset with themselves. It also seems that maybe the partner is overly stressed due to new situations. Tell your partner how you feel. You need to find out what is bothering him/her or else the relationship might be over. When you express how you feel, talk about your feelings, it helps the relationship. It is not helpful if you accuse your partner. Accusations are only going to create more barriers to overcome. A good way to go about this is not to start any sentences with the word, 'You.' If you still can't get to the bottom of this problem then maybe you should seek out a third party to help you out from this emotional crises.